Is there somebody in your life who seems to be picture perfect on the surface and yet, for some reason, when you are with that person, you just feel low? Your intuition tells you that there is something wrong, but you are just not able to point out what it is. Everything about the person presents a perfect exterior but inside, you feel something is wrong. Maybe this person constantly belittles your feelings saying that it is for your own good or maybe they subtly humiliate you as if they’re joking joke. If that is the case, chances are high that you are being emotionally manipulated.
Emotional manipulators can be found across all walks of your life. These are people who tend to mentally exploit others to seize control. Being with them can bring about a lot of psychological stress and suffocating toxicity to your life. It might even cause you to question your own self-worth. It is very important to identify an emotional manipulator as early as possible.
FeedFond has compiled 11 different characteristics of emotional manipulators you can use to be careful and keep the toxicity at bay.
#11 The minute you meet them, you will love them
They are charming and pretend to be sensitive and vulnerable. They give off a friendly impression, and you will feel so comfortable that you may find yourself telling them almost every tale from your life in a very short span of time.
#10 They will blame it on your imagination
One of the first things to watch out for is their lies. They can very skillfully craft a lie such that when they have finished talking about their circumstance, you will surely believe that you are insane.
The scenario: When you see that person at a place they aren’t supposed to be and confront them about it, they will deny it. A typical response would be “ Are you out of your mind? I did not go there. How could I? I was at the office with a ton of coworkers and I had a meeting at that time. You can also check up with my colleagues. The whole department was there. You definitely saw someone else.” (A statement complete with alibi you may not even think about checking)
#9 They do not walk their talk
Every now and then, they will tell you about how life should be. But, they hardly show any signs of putting their words into practice. They just say things to make you feel they are a better person. For instance, a woman might tell you how it is not a good idea to be verbally abusive to young children but, on the other hand, you’ll hear here yelling at her kids all the time.
Additionally, emotional manipulators will vow to be there for any and every time you need, when the time comes, they’re nowhere to be found. They will, however, have a ready excuse for their absence.,
#8 They love to play the blame game
Nothing is their fault. Everything has to be blamed on you. If they have done something wrong, it is because you made them do it.
A typical statement would be “I am not normally like this. I don’t do it with anyone else except with you because you take the devil out of me.” If you get angry with them, again it’s your fault, “Why do you have such unrealistic expectations and thoughts? You know my limitations.”
#7 They really know how to make you feel guilty
Emotional manipulators will simply make you feel guilty about everything. If you tell them that you are bothered by something, they will tell you not to bring up the topic and spoil the vibe. If you do not tell them what is bothering you, they will tell you “It’s your fault. Why didn’t you tell me? Do you think I won’t be able to understand?.”