It’s not an easy job raising good kids in our complex world. But adults and children have different psychologies so, it’s important to have some basic ideas about child psychology. Such an understanding would help parents decipher the words and actions of their children and help them to be better at parenting.
Read on to discover what Harvard University psychologists have marked as the 6 most important things parents can do to bring up polite, good-natured, confident kids.
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#6 Help children deal with negative emotions
Children may experience negative emotions like anger, envy, shame, or hatred. It’s the duty of the parents to help children recognize what’s bothering them and causing such negative emotions. By helping them analyze their own feelings and emotions, parents teach kids from an early age to face and sort out negative feelings. Once children can cope with negative emotions, they will turn out to be more compassionate and caring adults.
#5 Teach them to face problems
Parents should not enable escapists behaviors. From childhood, kids should be taught how to face problems head-on, find the root cause of the problems, and strategize solutions. If a child doesn’t care for a particular activity, like karate lessons, parents should ask the child the reason why they are against taking karate lessons instead of acquiescing.
#4 Spend time with your children
Get to know what your child thinks about or enjoys doing and why. The only way of doing this is investing time and being together. Do activities with your children to create a stronger bond. Be a friend to your child, so that they can feel more comfortable opening up to you. Give them a chance to learn life lessons from you —your actions and words can deeply impact and shape them to be well-mannered and kind. How your child’s personality develops will depend a lot on you and your behavior.
#3 Train them to help with chores and express your appreciation
Usually, if kids are taught to do certain household chores from a young age, they will grow up to be responsible and independent adults. So, do your kids a favor by giving them certain small tasks to complete around the home like wiping dishes dry or watering plants. And don’t forget to thank them for their helping hand. When they become appreciative, they will learn how to be thankful and be grateful for the efforts of others. They’ll grow up to be kind adults with a great deal of empathy.
#2 Tell your child that they mean the world to you
Always tell your children that they are the most important thing in your life. You might think they know, but unless you tell them clearly, they won’t. It’s essential that they know what they mean to you so that they feel warm and secure in your love.
#1 Tell them how big and diverse the world is
Children think that their world consists of themselves and their family. However, they should be taught the truth from an early age—the world is diverse, wide, and interesting. They should learn to take an interest in events, people, animals, and everything else that falls outside their immediate home and family members routine. Movies, photographs, and books can teach young kids about diversity. This will help them become more tolerant adults who are not afraid to explore.
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